Would you drink a glass of dirty water?
Neither would I. If you had a glass of dirty water, you would need to dump it out. Clean water can’t be put in until the dirty water is emptied and the container washed.
Now-compare this with conditional and unconditional love.
You can’t have both at the same time. You must rid yourself of requirements and expectations put on others and choose to love them just the way they are. This sounds like a difficult task but the Lord says it can be done. Let Jesus’ love for others guide your relationships.
Like drinking a glass of pure clean water, loving others unconditionally can be very refreshing!!